My Own Favorite Books

Hey, I’m human and need to unwind and relax, too. These are some I enjoy:

    • Authors
      • Laurel K. Hamilton
      • Deborah Harkness
      • Patricia Briggs

What I’m Reading Now

      • 10 lessons to transform your marriage, 2006, Gottman, Schwartz-Gottman, & DeClaire
      • The relationship cure: A 5 step guide to strengthening your marriage, family, and relationships, 2001, Gottman & DeClaire
      • The sexual healing journey, 2001, Maltz

Recommended Books

This list is by no means all the books and references I use, but these are all very good. They are broken down by topic and include the title, publishing date, and author. I don’t sell them myself, but all are available at booksellers such as Barnes and Noble, Books-A-Million, eBay, etc.

Unfortunately, I don’t loan these out either. As an example, I’m on copy #6 of Katherine’s book on boundaries. One was loaned out and the rest were “borrowed,” never to be seen again, by clients over the years. Obviously, a very good and useful book, … at least to five former clients.


      • Rage: A step by step guide to overcoming explosive anger, 2007, Potter-Effron
      • Handbook of anger management: Individual, couple, family, and group approaches, 2005, Potter-Efron
      • Handbook of anger management and domestic violence offender treatment, Second Edition, 2015, Potter-Efron


      • Where to draw the line: How to set healthy boundaries every day, 2000, Katherine
      • Your perfect right: A guide to assertive living, tenth edition, 2017, Alberti & Emmons 


      • The 36-hour day: A family guide to caring for people with Alzheimer disease, other dementias, and memory loss later in life, 4th edition, 2006, Mace
      • Caregiver’s Bible: Helping older adults with behavioral and emotional quandaries, 2007, Matteson

Domestic Violence 

      • Getting free: You can end abuse and take back your life, 1997, NiCarthy
      • No more secrets: Violence in lesbian relationships, 2002, Ristock
      • The macho paradox: Why some men hurt women and how all men can help, 2006, Katz
      • What Paul really said about women: An apostle’s liberating views on equality in marriage, leadership, and love, 1991, Bristow
      • When dad hurts mom: Helping your children heal the wounds of witnessing abuse, 2004, Bancroft
      • The batterer as parent 2: Addressing the impact of domestic violence on family dynamics, 2012, Bancroft, Silverman, & Ritchie

Emotional & Social Intelligence

      • Emotional intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ, 2005, Goleman
      • Social intelligence: The revolutionary new science of human relationships, 2007, Goleman
      • Emotional intimacy: A comprehensive guide for connecting with the power of your emotions, 2013, Masters

Mental Health

      • A dose of sanity: Mind, medicine, and misdiagnosis, 1996, Walker
      • Compassion and self-hate: An alternative to despair, 1975, Rubin
      • Encyclopedia of nutritional supplements: The essential guide for improving your health naturally, 1996, Murray
      • Healing depression & bipolar disorder without drugs, 2006, Guyol
      • Nutritional treatments to improve mental health disorders: Non-pharmaceutical interventions for depression, anxiety, bipolar & ADHD, 2018, Procyk  
      • The diet cure: The eighth-step program to rebalance your body chemistry and food cravings, weight problems, and mood swings – now, 1999, Ross
      • The mood cure: The 4-step program to take charge of your emotions – today, 2002, Ross
      • Undoing depression: What therapy doesn’t teach you and medication can’t give you, 1997, O’Conner
      • Your drug may be your problem: How and why to stop taking psychiatric medications, 1999, Breggin & Cohen


      • Becoming a love and logic parent: Parent handbook, 2000, Faye
      • Common sense parenting, 1996, Burke
      • Positive parenting with a plan: Grades K-12, 2009, Johnson


      • 10 lessons to transform your marriage, 2006, Gottman, Schwartz-Gottman,  & DeClaire
      • Not “Just friends”: Rebuilding trust and recovering your sanity after an infidelity, 2003, Glass
      • The five love languages, 2004, Chapman
      • The happiness trap, 2008, Harris
      • The relationship cure, 2001, Schwartz-Gottman & DeClaire 
      • The seven principles for making marriage work, 2015, Gottman & Silver
      • Trust after trauma: A guide to relationships for survivors and those who love them, 1998, Matsakis
      • How to improve your marriage without talking about it, 2008, Love & Stosny 

Sex and Sexuality

      • What the Bible really says about homosexuality, 2000, Heminiak
      • What the Bible really says about sex, 2001, Gruber


      • 1001 ways to relax: An illustrated guide to reducing stress, 2003, George

Substance Abuse

      • Addiction as an attachment disorder, 2004, Flores
      • The small book: A revolutionary alternative for overcoming alcohol and drug dependence, 1992, Trimpey
      • The truth about addiction and recovery: The life process program for outgrowing destructive habits, 1991, Peele, Brodsky, & Arnold
      • Rational recovery: The new cure for substance addiction, 1996, Trimpey


      • The body bears the burden: Trauma, dissociation, and disease, 3rd edition, 2014, Scaer
      • The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma, 2014, Van der Kolk
      • The body remembers: The psychophysiology of trauma and trauma treatment, 2000, Rothschild
      • Trust after trauma, 1998, Matsakis
      • Women who hurt themselves: A book of hope and understanding. Tenth anniversary edition, 2005, Miller
      • Your body speaks its mind, 1981, Keleman