How I Work

I focus on relationship problems and trauma – with individuals, couples, and families – as well as with children. I’m good at what I do, my clients do get better, and I have the numbers to back that up.

The following is general info about how I work. Specific information about the various processes I use are in the other pages within this section.

Some of the specific problems I work with include trauma/PTSD, sexual abuse, stress, marital problems including infidelity, poor communication, domestic violence, anger and emotions, parenting, grief and loss, insecure attachment, mental wellness, substance use, and physical and emotional intimacy. All of these can and do impact couples, families, children, and individuals.

I focus on what’s happened to you versus what’s wrong with you. And I believe in helping you take charge, build, and maintain your own wellness in eight areas; not solely mental wellness.

I try to keep therapy fun and light-hearted, focusing more on strengths than weaknesses or problems. However, I’m probably not a good choice if you’re looking for a therapist to have pleasant conversations with or someone to vent your problems with. I am pushy and blunt at times in order to help my clients improve. Therapy is work I hold my clients accountable for, and those who’ve had success with me worked in therapy.

Every aspect of my program is structured and purposeful regardless of the problem. The process starts with a free consultation, either over the phone or face to face. The next step, if you choose to work with me, is an in-depth assessment and treatment plan, followed by my recommendations about how to proceed. After these steps we’ll start actual therapy.

Your safety is always my first priority. While therapy is definitely not a one-size-fits all proposition, I start all my clients with 2-3 sessions to learn and use skills to self-soothe and manage stress and emotions. It’s also where we start to address stress, anger and emotions, grief, communication, and overall wellness. Once we’ve covered safety, in and outside of therapy sessions, we’ll move into tailored therapy to address specific areas or problems you might want assistance with.

I review progress with each of my clients periodically and provide my clients a therapy summary and my recommendations at the end of each phase of therapy.

Theories and Therapy Models I Use
Theories I rely on include trauma, strengths, systems, eco-systems, attachment, emotions, emotional and social intelligence, self-efficacy, hope, choice, self-organizing, polyvagal and others. I use various therapy models depending on my clients’ needs, including cognitive and psychoeducational, narrative, bilateral stimulation or EMDR, ACT, Seeking Safety, ATRIUM, solution-focused, anger, energy-based, mindfulness, parts work, couples/marital therapy based on Gottman’s principles, internal family systems, parenting, grief therapy, play therapy, sand tray, poetry, TRE, bodywork, as well as trauma-informed practices.

I strongly encourage all my clients to regularly do some form of bodywork (TRE, yoga, tai chi, qi gong, massage therapy, etc.) and exercise, improve their diets and nutrition, socialize with family and friends, engage in hobbies or recreation, and have some fun in their lives.

Scheduling, Billing and Fees
I schedule assessments after your consultation for the first available time slot that works with your schedule. During your assessment you and I will set up a set time and day for your therapy sessions, working with your schedule as much as possible.

Your time is valuable and so is mine. Life happens, and you may need to cancel an appointment or session. Please call, text, or email if you need to cancel an appointment. If you do not cancel within 24-hours of your scheduled appointment time I will charge you for that missed session.

If you are late for a scheduled appointment you will be seen, but probably not for the full time period. I do not adjust fees for partial sessions if you are late for your appointment.

Payment is expected at time of service and my fees are considerably lower than those charged by other agencies I’ve worked at. I charge a flat fee for my services and do not provide a sliding scale. I accept cash, credit cards, debit cards, cashier’s checks, and personal checks. I use Square, which provides electronic receipts for each transaction.

I do not bill insurance for a variety of reasons I’ve listed on The HAVEN Place website at You can use your insurance if your benefits plan offers out-of-network coverage. Most insurance plans do offer this. To find out what your particular plan offers, you’ll need to contact them directly. You’ll want to ask what your out of network outpatient mental health coverage is. I will provide you with the clinical information you’ll need to file claims against your insurance. Unfortunately, I will have to give you a clinical mental health diagnosis if you choose this route.

Please note, that I have no control of when your insurance reimburses you or how much you are reimbursed. I also have no control of your confidentiality once you submit this information to your insurance company.

Have some questions or want some help? Send me an email asking for a free consultation. Include your availability in the coming week and I’ll respond within 24-hours with a day and time that works for both of us.