Grief & Loss

The only constant in life isn’t death and taxes. It’s change. Nothing ever stays the same. We all go through numerous transitions or changes as we go through our lives. Some of the changes we’ve experienced were relatively easy to deal with. Other changes we’ve experienced were hard and may still cause us pain. Let’s face it. We’ve all had major changes in our lives. Grief and loss isn’t just about death. We grieve lots of other things – loss of innocence, ends of relationships, job changes, divorce, aging and loss of physical capabilities, etc. etc. Major changes or losses can be traumatic with a host of “symptoms” that may resemble mental illnesses but aren’t.

 

William Worden came up with perhaps the best way to deal with grief and loss – 4 tasks:

  • Learn to accept the reality of the loss
  • Learn to work through the pain of grief
  • Learn to adjust to an environment in which the person, capability, etc., is missing
  • Learn to emotionally relocate the loss and move on with life

 

None of these tasks are easy. They aren’t stages, as some people have taught. Working through grief and loss is not linear, is not a progressive process, and is not subject to a time frame. Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, to get over a loss or major change in our lives. There is no right or wrong time frame. And grief is not mental illness.

 

Having trouble dealing with changes and losses in your life? Send me an email asking for a free consultation. Include your availability in the coming week and I’ll respond within 24 hours with a day and time that works for both of us.