I’m Ray Sizemore, the founder of The HAVEN Place and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW). I enjoy working with and focus on couples and families with an emphasis on trauma, and have extensive training and experience in a wide range of areas. I’m also a retired U.S. Air Force (E-8) veteran.
I first became interested in couples’ and family therapy when I was in the U.S. Air Force. I’d been serving for over 20 years, was trying to decide what I wanted to do for my next career, and had the opportunity to meet and work with a social worker. At the time, I was supervising individuals in the military, but as any military member knows, that also means I was indirectly working with couples and their children. I found what that social worker did quite interesting and could see how that type work could benefit the people under my supervision and their families.
As I pursued my second career in social work, I realized that it doesn’t do a lot of good to work with an individual if they’re married or living with someone because that person is a part of the equation. The other person(s) need to be included in the work to bring about a true and lasting positive change. The same thing applies to children. Parents have to be involved to bring about lasting positive change.
I’ve been working as a couples’ and family therapist for the last eight years. What my clients have gone through has impacted their whole family and underscores the importance of working with the couple, with the family, to truly help them recover.
The two biggest differences between how I work and how I’ve seen other places work is the way I assess the situation and how my clients and myself track their progress in therapy. My primary goal is to find the underlying cause. Whether there’s past trauma, substance abuse, environmental problems, etc., there’s always an underlying reason for a person’s problems and behavior. That’s been true in several thousand couples and individuals I’ve worked with. By finding and focusing on that, we not only solve the problem the couple, family, or individual came to me to help resolve, we also prevent additional problems. Because here’s the thing, unless that underlying reason is worked through, it will show up again in some other way. In many cases, if the cause isn’t addressed, people don’t recover and actually get worse. That’s why The HAVEN Place focuses on causes instead of just symptoms.
I treat all the people – couples, families, individuals, children, etc., – who come to see me with respect and compassion, but I’m also pretty laid back. If it’s appropriate, I’m going to laugh – and I want you to laugh too!
I’ve been called a pleasure to work with, very patient, very calm, easy to talk with, and very professional by past clients and co-workers. Many of my past clients have improved 30 points or more from their pre-therapy baseline over the course of while working with me and regained control of their lives. In my career I’ve helped several thousand people regain a sense of inner calmness and peace, self-control, hope, joy, purpose, and meaning in their lives, and I’m confident I can help you transform your life as well.
In my spare time I enjoy pets (currently 2 dogs, 1 cat, and two birds), family, exercise (not enough), martial arts, gardening, cooking (and eating), woodworking, playing with my lap harp and Native American flutes, reading (too much), and, as my grandfather used to call it, “tinkering” in my garage.
This is my double-strung Celtic lap harp and two flutes. I know a few tunes, but I’m decidedly not proficient. I’m even worse on the flutes, but they’re fun to play – makes our dogs go crazy.
Want to schedule a free consultation? Send me an email asking for a free consultation with your availability in the coming week. I’ll respond within 24 hours with a day and time that works for both of us.