What is EMDR?

What is EMDR? How does it work? Is it safe? What’s a session like? These are the four questions I hear most often about EMDR. I use two forms of EMDR but let’s take a look at what EMDR is first. The original form of EMDR or Eye Movement Desensitization Routine was developed in the… Read More

Want 5 proven ways to reduce your stress load?

#1. Cultivate a positive attitude. Happiness is an attitude and we can all make choices about our own happiness. William Shakespeare once wrote, “Nothing is either bad or good, but thinking makes it so.” That’s attitude. We really do choose whether we will have a good or bad attitude. The more we focus on the… Read More

Why did you choose your partner?

I often ask couples this question – when both parties are unhappy and stressed out – and I get some surprising responses. Typically, however, both have confused looks and are at a loss for words. And then we go a bit deeper along the lines of “You’re both attractive people but what qualities beyond the… Read More

Which diagram is a fairytale? Which one is realistic?

I’ts quiz time. I’ve talked about six stages of a long-term supportive relationship. Which one of these diagrams do you think represents the better relationship? Many people have told me over the years that the right diagram is best. For them it represents togetherness, a true partnership, sharing everything. It does work, but really represents… Read More